This is the last week I’ll be blogging on ALIGNMENT. Alignment is such an important topic. When things are aligned they just work better.
Your inner circle will determine your safety and success.
Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends. -John 15:13 NIV
He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm. -Proverbs 13:20 NIV
Your friends are there when everyone else walks out. When we go through bad times we will find out who our real friends are. I’ve been in many different ministry circles, I’ve been around all the big names and the big ministries, I’ve been in relationship with some of these same people and I have to say, I’m thoroughly disappointed. The people you come in contact with in real life are very rarely the same people that we see on the platform. I actually felt that some of these folks were in my inner circle. I allowed them in because of the influence they had on my life. Influence is earned on a personal level. After going through some tough times I looked to my inner circle and lo and behold… they were gone! I’ve actually had better friends who were unbelievers than I’ve had in the church. Over the past year I’ve had to realign my relationships. I’ve found some relational alignment with people who are real, authentic, and truly have my best interest in mind. So how do you know who your real friends are? Well I’ve listed a few things that truly show who passes the mustard to be in your inner circle.
1. They stay when everyone leaves.
True friends don’t judge what you’ve done. True friends accept and love the ugliest parts of you. True friends are willing to walk with you. They call, they text, they check in with you. They really don’t care about what other people think of you and decide to “associate” with you regardless of what you’ve done or what others say you’ve done. True friends don’t choose sides, they just love you.
2. They don’t just stay, they love.
True friends do stay through thick and thin. Staying though doesn’t mean loving. Just because someone stays doesn’t mean they love. You can teach a dog to stay but that’s just because they know who feeds them! Love is different. True love is exemplified in through the writing of the apostle Paul in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. True friends truly love.
3. They have your best interest in mind.
Your inner circle has your best interest in mind. I remember one of these guys that was in my inner circle. I helped him get preaching dates, produce a book, t-shirt ideas, and the list goes on. The sad part now looking back is that we only talked when he needed something from me. True friends call or get in touch with no motive of what they can get but maybe what they can give! If someone in your life is always a taker then I’d dare to say they truly aren’t a true friend.
I know this sounds like a rant of a blog but I’m writing from a place major experience in this area. Needless to say, my inner circle has become very small because there have only been a small few who have truly shown what real love looks like.
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