Part 2 – Working for an Insecure Leader
I’m continuing a multi week blog series called, “Can You Identify?” I’m pretty excited about it because during these weeks you’ll find some type of identity within these blogs and what you can do to become, “more like Jesus” through it.
This week I want to talk about how to work under an insecure leader. Insecurity can hamstring an organization and can limit your leadership. I couldn’t imagine always have insecurity about people who worked for me. To constantly fret about what the people are doing who are supposed to be serving the vision can be an exhausting, full-time job. If I’m trying to control everybody in my organization then I’m not doing anything to grow myself or the organization. Working under an insecure leader is the worst. To constantly be scrutinized and micro-managed is no way to live. So what do you do? What can you do if you can’t leave and you seem to be stuck under an insecure leader who seems to be threatened by your success?
I’ve been there, not once but twice. The first time I worked for a narcissist who was building his own little castle and the second time was for someone who was threatened because I was finding success in the gifting God had put on my life. In both instances, I did my best to serve but when God wants to move you out, He will provide a way to do it and that’s exactly what happened. So this next little slice of David’s life is something I can identify with and maybe you can too.
1 Samuel 18:6-9 NKJV
6Now it had happened as they were coming home, when David was returning from the slaughter of the Philistine, that the women had come out of all the cities of Israel, singing and dancing, to meet King Saul, with tambourines, with joy, and with musical instruments. 7So the women sang as they danced, and said:
“Saul has slain his thousands,
And David his ten thousands.”
8Then Saul was very angry, and the saying displeased him; and he said, “They have ascribed to David ten thousands, and to me they have ascribed only thousands. Now what more can he have but the kingdom?” 9So Saul eyed David from that day forward.
So things in David’s life were going pretty great. He thought the king was for him, he just killed Goliath, he has a great job… then he realizes very quickly, he’s working for a very insecure leader. Like I mentioned, I found myself in this position not once, but twice! It was an awful place to be but I learned a lot about how to continue to move forward and produce fruit even while working for bad leadership.
1. Behave wisely.
“And David behaved wisely in all his ways, and the Lord was with him.” 1 Samuel 18:14 NKJV
I love this verse because this comes right on the heels of Saul trying to pin David to a wall with a spear! If someone tried to kill you with a spear, would you behave wisely? What about when a co-worker or a boss tries to make you or your work look bad? How do you behave? I can honestly tell you, I suck at this. I’m a bit of an emotional person so for me, I retaliate and not just get defensive, I go offensive! This is not the right thing to do. It has gotten me in even more trouble. The Lord loves humility. Humility isn’t letting people step all over you, it’s letting God fight your battles. Staying in peace when someone tries to make you look bad or says something that would defame you. This is humility. It’s allowing God to be your defender and avenger. When we behave wisely, God is with us and He fights for us.
2. Your actions will speak louder than your words.
15Therefore, when Saul saw that he behaved very wisely, he was afraid of him. 16But all Israel and Judah loved David, because he went out and came in before them. 1 Samuel 18:15-16 NKJV
When you continue to do what you’re called to do, you will earn respect. The insecure leader will either leave you alone or they will ramp up their persecution. God will always grace you for the time and season you are in. He will provide for you and He will protect you. He’s a good Father. You just keep honoring God in your actions and He will honor you before your enemies. I can tell you from experience. I’ve had people talk bad about me, try and destroy me, end relationship with me, and all kinds of other evil in the name of justice but the one thing I find… I don’t respond, I bite my tongue, and God fights my battles for me. He will bless you when others mess with you!
I’d love to hear how you identify with this story! Leave your comments below.
I am at this stage and with every of your testimony, I learnt a lot again today, I thank God for this day. Thanks too for sharing it with us. I appreciate.
I needed this. I have two insecure supervisors & I’m caught in between them. I’m a valuable employee but somehow the one is threatened by me. I just want to do my 8 & go home.I believe this is a set up for a promotion, bigger than I could do for myself.I pray God sets them free.
It’s totally a set-up! Don’t give up! Gods promotion is on the way!
Love this word!!! So speaks to me and what I have been dealing with in my life. You have also encouraged me with this word!!! I have allowed my hurt and my emotions to get in the way, or to be my focus and I am determined to have a God focus as I so want to honor God!!! Thank you so much!!!
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Wow..thanks so much for this Ashley! I think I am at that point where I just need to try to surrender,instead of get defensive….we can only do that through Christ’s strength…cause my flesh can just kick up…lol …especially when your trying to love people,and do the best you can.In the physical realm..it just feels like they take pleasure in putting you at the back of the line…beit ,with always competing with you,seeing what you do wrong instead of right…or just underestimating you in front of other’s.And yes..it does hurt…but…if we are to love our enemies…than I guess we will be tested…till we shine that way.Sometimes…I have just let that new woman in Christ shine through…other times…my pride got the best in me…but I am a work in progress.Thanks for being real and relateable in your sharing…..Praise Jesus!